MOVING ON WITH YOUR EX

Breaking up is never fun. The end of a relationship means the beginning of a period of mourning and healing for both people. If the break up was mutual both people will experience a period of adjustment where they are getting used to no longer being together. If the break up was not mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and feelings that they may have made a mistake. The person being broken up with will definitely have to adjust, first to being rejected and second to life without somebody they still care for. How do you get through those first few weeks? Here we list eight essential things everybody must do in the early days of a break up to let the healing begin.

1. Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isn’t being immature. Seeing your former flame can bring out emotions and may cause you do to or say something you will regret. In the first few weeks the best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will be.
2. Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later.
3. Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.
4. Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong.
5. Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things?
6. Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying. Think about these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Dwell on them. It will make you feel better to remember that your former flame was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss.
7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your life.
8. Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from instant messaging or texting on your cell. Just don’t contact your ex until you are totally and completely sure you no longer want to be with him or her. It is the only way.

Mending a broken heart is not easy but it can be done. Just stick to the game plan outlined above and before you know it you’ll be just fine. 

(http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/breakingup/a/breakuphelper.htm)

OATH

Yo, my best friend, best friend til the very end
Cause best friends, best friends don't have to pretend
You need a hand, and i'm right there right beside you
You in the dark, i'll be the bright light to guide you
'Member the times, times, times sneaking of the house
All of the times, times, times that you had the doubts
And don't forget all the trouble we got intoWe got something you can't undo, do 

 Laughing so damn hard
Crashed your dad's new car
All the scars we share
I Promise, I swear

Wherever you go, just always remember
That you got a home for now and forever
And if you get low, just call me whenever
This is my oath to you
Wherever you go, just always remember

            You never alone, we're birds of a feather
And we'll never change, no matter the weather
This is my oath to you

            I know I drive you crazy, mm, sometimes

I know I called you lazy, and that's most times
But you complete me, and that's no lie
You are my tuxedo, and i'm your bow tie
We in the car, sing, sing, singing our song
Rocking the building, tear it down, like we king kong

Laughing so damn hard
Crashed your dad's new car
All the scars we share
I Promise, I swear
And in my eyes, you can't do, do no wrong
You got the best friends sing, sing along

Wherever you go, just always remember
That you got a home for now and forever
And if you get low, just call me whenever
                                                                                    

This is my oath to you                                                Wherever you go, just always remember                          You never alone, we're birds of a feather
 And we'll never change, no matter the weather
This is my oath to you
 I'll never let you go
 Woah, this is my oath to you
 Just thought that you should know
  Woah, this is my oath to you
                                                             Yeah...
                                             Wherever you go, just always remember
                                              That you got a home for now and forever
                                               And if you get low, just call me whenever
                                                This is my oath to you
                                           Wherever you go, just always remember
                                             You never alone, we're birds of a feather
                                           And we'll never change, no matter the weather
                                      This is my oath to you
                                               You should know, you should know, you should know
                                                Woah, this is my oath to you
                                               You never alone, we're birds of a feather
                                                 Woah, this is my oath to you.

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COPING WITH BREAKUPS

Breaking up to someone you loved is not easy.. You can really feel the grief and pain.. But here some tips that I can share to how to cope up with break ups from

(http://www.lovenemotions.com/relationships/coping-with-breakups.php)

Here are top 10 ways on how to cope with a break up:

1.) Accept the end - Once the break up happens, you need to put it behind you and cope with the negative feelings that well inside you. The most important thing is to accept it. Do not cling onto the hope that a miracle would happen and things would go back to normal. Do not hope that the break-up would be reversed by some magic and you would be back together as if nothing happened. This would make things unbearable for you. Rather, you should accept it. Accept that your relationship is over. Accept that the other person would not be there for you any more. 

2.) Respect yourself - never blame yourself for a break-up. Be kind to yourself and your feelings. Do not punish yourself and do not entertain thoughts of ending your life or anything as drastic. There is life after a break up and chances are that the right person is there out looking for you just at this very moment. Don't you want to meet that special person that God has created only for you? Respect yourself enough to give yourself another chance to be happy. 

3.) Pamper yourself for a while - it hurts when you live through a break up. You need to replace the negative feelings created in your heart (and which influences every part of the body) with positive feelings. The easiest way to create positive feelings is to indulge in yourself. Do something you love - go to the movies; go for a world tour or a great tourist destination for a great vacation; treat yourself for a special body massage or beauty treatment; start a new hobby; binge of some food you love; buy some excellent jewelry; etc. Center all your attention on your pleasure for a while. Wash away your hurt by indulging yourself. 

4.) Connect with your family - you will be surprised how wonderful the love of your family feels after or during a break up. You will realize how much love you are taking for granted while you are crying for the one love that is no more yours. Count your blessings in the love of your family, your close friends and renew these wonderful emotional bonds.

5.) Allow yourself to heal - do not throw yourself into new relationships immediately after a break up. Raw emotions would almost always give you the wrong reasons to forge new relationships. Look for new relationships only when you can look back on the broken one without pain. Learn from the relationship and move ahead. Do not use it as a leverage against the person who broke up with you. 

6.) Forget the revenge mode - falling in and falling out of love happens. It is sad - but it happens. Accept this as a fact and do not seek revenge for being set aside for another person. Break up are usually emotionally shattering because they are interpreted as rejection. However, it is not rejection. It is a way to say that "I am not getting what I want from you." This is fine - nothing personal. Everybody is entitled to their opinion and happiness. Respect this choice and forget revenge. When you hate or plot for revenge, you can never let go of the past. Remember, "Revenge is the confirmation of pain." It also ties you up with the past - never allowing you to really move ahead. Do you really want that? 

7.) Take up a new hobby - you might find that time lies heavy on your hands. Use that time to enjoy yourself. Read, watch TV or develop a new hobby which would occupy you and also bring you joy. You might even try to use your free time for a professional course or learning a new language. Keeping your mind occupied in creative activities is a great way to cope with a break up. 

8.) Time is the best healer - understand that it takes time for you to stop feeling the hurt n your heart. Give yourself the time to heal. Do not hurry the process along as if you do, the clogged emotions would erupt one day in a harmful way. Realize that the hurt would leave you gradually just as a wound would gradually heal. 

9.) Move on - aim ahead. Do all that you find possible to move on as normally as possible. Keep yourself surrounded by well-meaning friends and family with whom you could openly converse regarding your feelings. The more you are able to vocalize these feelings, the better you will be able to deal with a breakup. 

10.) Everything happens for the good - understand that everything happens for the good. Use this event as a learning measure for self growth. This is just a step in your journey towards finding the true love of your life. 

hope it will help you when you are in these situation..:(

FAMILY poem

UNCONDITIONAL  LOVE

                Your touch is as cold as the wind

       It makes me feel secured all the way

       Whenever I see you, my heart can smile

       That can reach a thousand mile.

                Despite of sorrow I survived because you’re there,

       With the warmth of your hug I can bear.

       Showing a love that can never define,

       As bright as the sun and its everlasting shine.

                When the time comes that you will walk away

       It feels like judgment day

       My life is a living hell

with all the pains I can never tell.

I showed everyone that I am happy and fine,

Everyone bought it even I was next in line

You chose the best, cause

I knew you love me

In this kind of love I taste the beauty of life

Coz’ your with me facing all of my knives.

       With the smell of the flowers  as I am with you

“ Oh a Love that is so true”

Never forget the people around you.

Your mom and dad who showered unconditional love you never knew.

family vacation

ANG BUGTONG KONG HINIGUGMA

ANG BUGTONG KONG HINIGUGMA

Sa unang adlaw nga kita nagkita,

Niusbaw na akong gugma diha-diha

Sa wala tuyoa, kasingkasing ko mikuba.

O hinigugma ko, ikaw ra akong gihunahuna.

Sa akong pagtulog sa mabugnaw nga kagabhion,

 Dili matuyo ikaw permi ang damgohon.

Permi iampo sa Amahang Langitnon

Nga ikaw sarang akong maangkon.

Apan usa ka adlaw ikaw akong nakit-an,

Aduna kay laing babay’ng kauban,

Sa dili mapugngan kasingkasing ko nasakitan

Kasayang sa akong gugmang imong gidagmalan.

Di kapugngan ang pagdagayday ning  akong luha

Nga ikaw sa akong kinabuhi mawala

di man ako ang nakapanag-iya nimo,

apan ania lang ako, kun ikaw masagmuyo.

Siguro dili pa nako panahon,

Nga makit-an ang tinood nga higugmaon

Akong isaad sa akong kaugalingon,

Nga kun ako na siyang makaplagan,

Siya ra akong bugtong nga Higugmaon..

MINDANAO, my HOME!

Daghan nag-ingon nga gubot ang Mindanao. Daghan og terrorista, kidnapper, mga rebelde ug naa pay mamomba. Apan, para nako dili lang kini ang maong imahen sa Mindana. Dili tanan lugar sa Mindanao gubot, naa sab kini kahapsay, ug kalinaw nga  angay ipanghambog sa katawhan.

Sumala sa penfires.com daghan kaayog lugar ang pwede masuroyan sa Mindanao:

1. Cagayan de Oro (CDO) na usa sa mga gateway sa mga major tourist spots sa Mindanao. Naa kini kaugalingong domestic airport and sea port para sa mga byahero. Usa sa mga angay bisitahon sa CDO mao ang water rafting. Angay pod tilawan ang delicacy nga gipanghambog sa mga Cagay-anon ang "pastel"

2. Camiguin Island nga sikat sa ilang Lanzones, Underwater Cemetery, Hibuk-hibuk Valcano, ug ilang white sand beaches.

3. Siargao Island kon gusto kang mag-surfing sa mga dagkong bawod.

4.Bukidnon naa didto ang labing dakong planta sa pinya.

5. Davao city nga gitawag og "commercial and economic center of Mindanao". Daghan sab diri og mga resorts and white sand beaches.

6. Zamboanga City nga giila sa ilang dialect nga Espanyol. Sikat sab diri ang mga colorful Vintas, batik, malong, Curacha (a large crab), dried fish and more.

Daghan pang mga lugar nga gi-consider as tourist spots sa Mindanao. Maong proud kaayo ko nga taga-MINDANAO ko..:)